My title is.. Well.. Loaded with sarcasm at the moment.. My wife and I are currently fighting.. All married folk out there have had fights with your spouses I'm sure.. My wife, she can get really loud when she's mad (she is Puerto Rican, they are loud by nature).. In the middle of the fight my wife storms off to our room and I turn around and see my son, Darrien, in the corner with this horrified look on his face.. He tells me that Mommy scares him when she yells and then starts trying to counsel me on how not to anger Mommy.. Suddenly the fight seemed to loose all it's importance to me, because here was this little six year old boy who only wanted Mommy and Daddy to not be mad at each other.
It's a petty fight about nothing of any real significance. Sometimes I wonder why we get into these fights. Throughout the fight I continued to argue my point, cuz of course "I'm right". But now I can't help but wonder.. Should I have just gone along with her request, even though, in my opinion, her way is inconvenient and a rather waste of time, and of course my way (in my rational) is much more practical.
It's not that I think I was wrong to argue my point, but weighed against the counterproductiveness of fighting with my wife, maybe I should have just gone along with the less practical method.
Actually now that I think about it, most of our fights are this way. She wants me to do something "her way" and I'm more than happy to do it, but I want to do it "my way". She insists it's done her way and I insist that since I'm the one doing it, I'll do it my way.. We are both stubborn mules. She refuses to allow me to do it my way, and I refuse to do it her way.. It reminds me alot of a young brother and sister arguing over something of no real importance.. Both arguing past each other and not backing down an inch cuz heaven forbid one of them acquiesce.. The natural world order might end..
so how long does it take to advance past this primal form of argument into a more productive form? Does a more productive form exist? Or should I just give up now? Or are we destined to have pointless arguments of trivial stuff the rest of our lives.. Lord I hope not.
Well, I have to go finish packing now. I'm moving tomorrow.
2 comments:
You homo...you should have smacked her! No, no, seriously, there is no real productive form of arguing between the sexes. They are uninteligable, even to themselves. I would wish you the best, but you're married and I don't believe in divorce. Alternatively, then, I suggest the rule of thumb. No, no...she's Puerto Rican? Well, then the rule of wrist.
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